The choice is marriage (and family) or cut off your dick. It isn’t, “You can have a family if you want.” It’s, “If you fuck a woman, you married her, and you live happily ever after.” If you love ’em and leave ’em, then you’re an adulterer by being a maker of adulteresses.
His disciples [said] unto him, “If the case of the man be so with his wife [he cannot divorce his wife because her eventual remarriage is adultery, and that makes him a party to adultery, and thus an adulterer], it is not good to marry.”
But he said unto them, “All men cannot receive this [following] saying, save they to whom it is given.
“For there are some eunuchs [men without dicks], which were so born from their mother’s womb: and there are some eunuchs [men without dicks], which were made eunuchs [men without dicks] of [by other] men: and there be eunuchs [men without dicks], which have made themselves eunuchs [men without dicks – in Greek, ‘made themselves eunuchs’ is a single-word verb] for the kingdom of heaven’s sake [for the sake of the church which is the assembly of Christians]. He that is able to receive it [cut off his dick], let him receive it [cut off his dick rather than marry].”
This from the guy who advised men to cut off a hand or cut out an eye if it will lead to sin (and damnation).
Marriage isn’t an “option:” it’s the only permissible way for a man to fuck. According to Old Testament scriptures, the act of fucking constitutes either marriage (fucking a woman not married) or adultery (fucking a married woman) or rape (fucking a woman without permission – which a husband can’t grant to his wife). Since scripture commands humanity to “be fruitful and multiply,” the Christian standard is a lifelong bond of a wife to her husband (and only her husband) initiated by copulation, with no provision for postponing children, and only modest provisions for temporary abstinence from sex. A wedding ceremony only publicizes which woman is attached to which man so that nobody can later claim ignorance.
The alternative to marriage is meant to be harsh because the assumed state of men is marriage, not celibacy. A man is assumed to fuck women, banned from fucking men, and so required to never divorce the women he fucks.
The only exception to “never divorce” is for a man whose wife fucks another man (adultery) – then he can quit the marriage because it’s already over. If a man mistakenly fucks a whore who later fucks another man, then he’s off the hook. On the other hand, if he intentionally fucks whores, then that’s fornication, which is forbidden to Christian men.
That’s not great news for Heartiste and Rooshv, but that’s the rules.