The Discounting of Lived Male Experience

As always, Bryce produced yeoman’s work as an apprentice-aged man. Props! I believe he missed a minor detail, perhaps because he has not endured sufficient chick flicks with women.

“Consider, if you will, why men and women might both enjoy the same action movie. For the man, the action hero represents an ideal of masculinity, a narrative, he aspires to. For the woman, the action hero represents a solid bedrock that can ground her inner life. Men want to be the action star, women are attracted to the action star. This sort of asymmetry doesn’t follow for chick flicks, where women are interested in a narrative they can aspire to; for men, they are less concerned with being persuaded that the girl is attractive. Seeing what she looked like was sufficient, the rest of the movie is just a good story (or not).”

My guilty habit is Japanese anime. My daughter teases me for watching the dramas, but, for me, these are the best. Most of the Japanese narratives still retain authentic depictions of “lived male experience” within the dramatic dialog, perhaps because the Japanese have not been quite so completely crushed beneath feminist dogma. Such dramas invariably contain love stories that accurately reflect male emotional attachments, both to lovers and comrades. So, using that as a reference, let’s re-examine “chick-flicks.”

What we in America call “chick-flicks” have a strong representation elsewhere as authentic dramas. These narratives describe the expanding relationships between friends and lovers, including how these relationships begin, develop, and occasionally fail. For me, personally, the characters permit me to vicariously experience emotions and entanglements which are largely absent from my intentionally stable, quiet, and un-dramatic life. I have noticed, however, when my wife and daughter enter the room, that they often make derisive comments such as, “Why are the women always crying?” and “Why is everybody shouting?” My favorite, of course, was when my daughter watched FLCL and said, “That’s too strange.” Of course it was “too strange;” it was all about a young man’s coming of age, all the strange sci-fi was allegorical.

The difference, you see, it that most Japanese anime is written for a male audience. Men make it; men watch it. As a result, you get the equivalent of “chick-flicks” written for men. So, now my critique.

When men watch anime dramas about the misfit boy who gets the girl, they’re watching something to which they aspire. The misfit boy STRIVES TO BECOME GREATER. This is not the comic-book hero that suddenly finds himself with powers that solve his problems; this is the comic-book hero that suddenly finds himself with powers that CAUSE HIS PROBLEMS. It is only by improving himself as a man that he is able to overcome his disabilities – even those that give him strength – and become a man worthy of his comrades and lovers.

In this regard, a “chick-flick” is a different narrative completely alien to men. It requires men to empathize with the goal of being sufficient – and often through connivance and whirlwind efforts following some sort of procrastination – to attract the attention of a lover and keep it. Comrades rarely figure in the narrative. Happily-ever-after is the end of the story, rather than an opening to a broader implied narrative following a crisis of self-worth. In the chick-flick, the protagonist is worthy, but alone, and needs a companion. In the male narrative, the protagonist is unworthy, though rarely completely alone, and seeks to establish self-worth justified by external and objective assessments. This journey earns him companions, who have similar journeys of improvement. Together, they accomplish great deeds they could not accomplish alone. When this narrative includes lovers, then the characters invariably recognize that they are stronger together than apart. Even in Japanese “girl-power” narratives where men take a nominally subordinate role, the narrative focuses on the male’s quest for worth to a completely superior woman, and his willingness to self-sacrifice for somebody who can live without him – but needs his emotional support to avoid despair.

A Comment I Almost Lost to the Ether

This was quoted by another elsewhere, so I’ve posted it here so others may read it. Some context may be lost.

” Regading your two statements,

“But the snarking thread is the perfect example of how they completely misread comments and then make them into something [with which] they can take issue…”


“Not necessarily that they mindfully create these mischaracterizations of us and our beliefs/lives/etc but that they have an end (wanting to save us/condemn us) and they need to find the catalyst.”

“I’m of the atheist variety of “Red Pill,” and post D/s. As a result, I move in several atheist liberal circles. After some two-plus years deeply involved with the local atheists, I’ve concluded that the “snark” you witness is more often motivated by COMPLETE COMPREHENSION OF RED PILL and not anything resembling ignorance. Such people “get it” right down to their bones, but they are opposed because it challenges their ability to take from others according to whatever base desires presently motivate them. A woman who bleeds her ex-husband for alimony and child support and games the legal system by keeping a man “around” but eschewing a legal commitment isn’t ignorant. She’s knows exactly what she’s doing. Men like Hugo Schwyzer aren’t clueless, or even self-deceived; they know the score minute-to-minute and are taking care to cheat their way into their personal success at the expense of others.
“I have taken to assuming that most local atheists I meet are “the enemy,” or, in rare cases, feminist witches (male or female) feigning atheist opinions, and I’m allowing only a little mental room to ascertain whether such persons I meet are the rare exception. I recommend you do likewise among the “trolls” and others you encounter.”

Satanism in the Church

Bryce Laliberte published a wise critique of the Catholic Church. Whether or not you share his religious affiliation – or are even atheist, as I am – you ought read his evaluation of the modern heretics within the church, and the evil at its head.

I believe it is not unreasonable to assert that Protestantism springs from these roots, though Bryce would dissent from that opinion.

Miller et al.’s “Unprecedented Recent Summer Warmth in Arctic Canada”: Bad assumptions, poor logic, and contrary to other evidence of Arctic temperatures.

Occasionally, people ask me why I think popular claims for anthropogenic warming are bunk. The answer, dear reader, is that I read the scientific papers advancing such conclusions and compare the data presented to that from previous research that has been both peer-reviewed and reproduced by others, preferably with alternative methods. This reblogged article does likewise. Perhaps you ought read it.

Watts Up With That?

Dr. Don J. Easterbrook, Western Washington University, Bellingham, WA

Miller et al. radiocarbon dated 145 rooted tundra plants revealed by receding ice in the eastern Canadian Arctic and contend that it constitutes the first direct evidence that recent temperatures now exceed those of any century in the Holocene, including the Holocene Thermal Maximum. They further contend that (1) average summer temperatures of the last ~100 years were higher than any century in the past 44,000 years and suggest that present temperatures have not been exceeded in the past ~120,000 years, at or near the end of the last interglaciation, and (2) they conclude that this ‘unprecedented’ warming was caused by anthropogenic increases in greenhouse gases. So let’s look at some of the assumptions that form the basis for their conclusions and compare their conclusions to other Arctic data.


Figure 1 A. Baffin Island showing sample sites. Circles (color-coded by their

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